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Resilience is crucial to my life. The path of my life is not as smooth as other classmates. I have taken my first Hong Kong Diploma of Secondary Education Examination (DSE) in 2015. I failed as my English only got level 2. I decided to retake the DSE. However, my parents and teacher did not support me, they thought that if I choose the associate degree is better. It is an easier way for me to get an offer from the university. But I am stubborn, I did not change my mind. Although they all did not agree about that, they always support me. My mum paid me the tutorial fees, my secondary school teacher corrected the writing exercise for me and my friends gave me a lot of exercises or useful notes they took before. I got to level 3 for my English in 2016. Nevertheless, it still did not enough for me to get a university offer.
Therefore, I took my associate degree. Although my mum always said that I wasted my time and money as I did not study in community college after my first DSE, she still supported me and stayed with me. As I mentioned in Part A, family cohesion and external support are important for people to have high resilience. My parents, teachers, and friends, although, were not all agree with my decision, they support me. When I am facing adversity, I know I am not alone. Moreover, I am an optimist. I always believed that I can do it and it is a valuable experience to me whether it is successful or failed. Thus, I have good resilience when I encounter a problem or adversity (Lazarus, 1999).
When I started to study in community college, it was all new and difficult for me. Since all subject was taught in English, it was totally different from my secondary school. I was in a panic. Fortunately, I made some new friends and they were willing to teach me and translate it into Chinese to me. They help me a lot. Finally, I got two offers. One is from Baptist University, it is a year two offer; another one is from Polytechnic University, it is a year on offer. Baptist University (BU) gave me an offer first, I was happy and accepted it and paid the bill immediately. However, one week later, Polytechnic University (PolyU) gave me the offer. At that time, I was entangled. I wanted the second offer but my parents all did not support me this time. There are two problems. First, they paid the fee for BU and it was not refundable. It is a big mortgage for my family. Second, my age is a problem. My secondary school graduates almost graduated or got a job. After I graduate from university, they all have stable jobs. I knew that they were all true but I still decided to study at PolyU. I made a deal with my mum, I will pay half of the tutorial fee for the first year and the whole fee for the last year. As I mentioned before, an optimist tends to use a control coping style. Therefore, when my parents did not support me, I did not choose to give up. I tried to fix the problem (Seligman, 1991). Hence, without having high resilience, when I face the problem I will tend to neglect and escape it. Then I wont be successful.
Not only in the past, I believe that resilience is also vital in the future. After graduation, maybe I will be an engineer. An engineer will have mainly eight things to do in a project. First, we need to determine the problem, do some research, brainstorm and pick the best solution, build, test, redesign, and present it last. It requires us to deal with constantly changing priorities and a heavy workload. In this situation, resilient people can do better than fewer resilient people. Furthermore, not only the heavy workload but also the competitor from own company or other company. We will face failure, but we need to face it. Success is having the courage to meet failure without being defeated. It is refusing to let present loss interfere with our long-range goal. We should not be defended easily by failure. Resilient people will learn from failure not be defeated by failure and they will use control coping rather than escape coping.
To conclude, resilience is momentous in our life. A person who has higher resilience will treat challenges as opportunities.
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